Dressing up the Dictionary: Expectations

It’s a New year and I have a whole new set of expectations. They can fall flat or be exceeded and until things happen you forever live in the unknown. I used to get the worst anxiety about a year ending and not knowing what was going to happen, but not this time. 2018, to quote Ariana Grande, thank you, next. I am so ready for all the challenges I will face this year, especially because I have found my footing with what I want for myself. So what is it exactly that I expect in the year to come, you ask?

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What I learnt last year is there really are two things which remain a constant: change and of course, your expectations. In fact, they totally work hand in hand. Everything you expect is always changing but you have them nonetheless. Of course, change is an inevitable fate and it doesn’t cease to exist. What 2018 really opened my eyes up to is the notion of “anything can happen.” It was the things I least expected (or didn’t at all for that matter) which changed so much for me, including what I expected from myself.

I expect to push myself outside of my comfort zones, to try and explore the things I love doing and not stay home so much (as cosy as it is), to learn, to love and most importantly I expect to be valued and to value myself.

I am excited to see where this year takes me, especially now that I have embarked on this blogging journey. At the beginning of 2018, I didn’t anticipate I would be doing what I am doing now. But by the end of 2019, with my new path and a clearer direction, I expect to see a growth from the hard work I put into writing (and shopping hahaha) in my pursuit to dress up the Dictionary. Plus, it means I get to hang out in très très chic places like this one (The Hari) which always makes for a great photo. For this words look I wanted to portray what expectations can look like in literal way. Just your every day jumper and jeans but with the addition of those red bottoms as a symbol of what I expect for myself; the very best.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Pink Mohair Jumper, H&M

  2. Straight Leg Jeans, Topshop, Similar here

  3. Pointed Sling back heels, Christian Louboutin, Similar here

  4. Necklace assortment: Amelia Pendant - Cinco Store, Zodiac Pendant - Vanity&Rose, Mother of Pearl Pendant - Astley Clarke , Chanel Pendant from a selection at the Bond St Boutique

Dressing up the Dictionary: Pretty

Am I pretty? Do other people think I am pretty? Does the person I like think I am pretty? What does being pretty even mean?

Pretty, in Pink

It’s all just too deep. I know your supposed to love yourself and not seek validation from others, but heres the thing; I do. I don't rely on it, but without some sense of validation from others, I don't think I would know how to see myself as “pretty” entirely on my own. Also the fact of the matter is, I know I am, but it never hurts to hear it! Don't lie to yourself, we ALL think this way at some point in time.

Because it is too deep, and because the word itself suggests something a tad more superficial, my look this week is a reflection on the face value of what being pretty is. Familiar with the phrase “pretty in pink”? I mean, if not, you gotta get out of that rock your under. It’s an age old saying that stands the test of time. When I want to feel pretty in a whimsical kind of way, I think of that saying and in turn the colour pink. They both translate the dictionary definition of “being attractive in a delicate way” all too well.

I have wanted to get my hands on the perfect mohair blend jumper in a dusty pink and while I haven’t got my most desired one from Acne Studios (yet), this one from H&M does the trick. I must say they are killing it with their knitwear this year. On top of that I feel the need to add an edge to my outfits, which can often be seen as very polished, hence the fishnet tights alongside the more feminine skirt. While shooting these images I kept saying to my friend “ugh, I feel like this is too pretty for me!” So, I guess I was hitting the nail on the head for the topic this week! I felt exactly that in this outfit and it was exactly what I was going for. Sometimes it can be makeup, sometimes it can be clothes and sometimes (on a deeper level!) it can be someone else making you feel that way. Looking at the face value of the word serves as a reminder that yes, anyone can make themselves feel pretty on the outside, but it takes a lot more to feel that from within. Having said that, why shouldn’t you be able to do the former anyway? It’s all about perception in the end and as Tyra Banks says “you gotta fake it till you make it!” I’m totally inclined to agree.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Pink Jumper, H&M

  2. Over the Knee Suede Boots, Stuart Weitzman

  3. Bag, Chanel

  4. Rectangular Hoop Earrings, Astley Clarke

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Dressing up the Dictionary: Optimism

“Optimism," said Cacambo, "What is that?" "Alas!" replied Candide, "It is the obstinacy of maintaining that everything is best when it is worst.” Candide, Voltaire

Optimism is a strange thing, to me at least. I don't consider myself to be an altogether optimistic person but it would seem that’s only really the case when I look at my life as a whole. It presents itself in smaller doses, like when I take on a task, I know the end goal and I am optimistic about reaching it whether that be through my blogging, working or even going shopping (because, duh, my ever expanding wardrobe doesn't exist because I am negative about how I want to look).

Working on the bigger picture, however, is going to take some serious amount of time. My cynical nature overrides my optimistic one when I think about the big goals for my future. It doesn’t help when you live with a condition which constantly throws you off balance or when everything going on for you is shat on by the universe, damn you seagull like universe, s@%!ting on everything. But I suppose that’s the point, courtesy of Voltaire (see quote above) it is in fact maintaining that you can see the best even through the worst.

Gucci Boots and Zara Red Patent Biker Jacket

When I think of the word itself, the colour red blankets my mind. Being optimistic carries this sense of fieriness with a side order of passion, which screams all hues of bright and vibrant red. It’s bold and headstrong, you know exactly what you want when you have it and you will do anything to obtain or achieve it in spite of any obstacles and all of life’s persistent twists and turns. So, for this weeks look I wanted to capture how I feel about optimism and how I can best represent what it means to me.

It’s finally jacket and coat season and I couldn’t be happier! I think it’s safe to say that outerwear can either make or break your outfit. I am obsessed (to my mothers distain) with buying them, filling out 3 wardrobes in my own home and not to mention those hanging up at my dad’s place. This red patent jacket is perfect for my look tied to the word optimism. Clearly, having this many coats and jackets really pays off, lol. I’m teaming it with an understated ensemble of a black knitted turtleneck, dark skinny jeans and the most boss boots I have purchased this winter from Gucci.

All the darkness underneath the bold and the bright is my scepticism and the red is all of my optimism. You get me? I hope so.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Red Patent Jacket, Zara - Similar here

  2. Black Turtleneck Jumper, H&M

  3. Dark Wash Skinny Jeans, 7 For All Mankind

  4. Ankle Boots, Gucci

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Dressing up the Dictionary: Monochopsis

Monochopsis - “The subtle but persistent feeling of being out of place.”

When I put together my look for this weeks blog, it was a matter of how I am feeling; disassociated/invisible. I threw on clothing in muted tones and loose shapes because it gave me comfort while feeling the discomfort of the not belonging to the outside world.

When I am in a dissociative state of mind the only thing that makes me present are my feet planted to the ground, hence the not so neutral leopard print ankle boots. There is a strangely dissatisfying yet satisfying notion about feeling out of place. On one hand everything happening around me isn't bothersome, while on the other I get too stuck in my own head. It’s like floating around aimlessly, getting on with the things I have to, literally only because I have to and living another life in my mind. In a way it’s like going window shopping, you know you aren't going to buy anything because well, funds, yet you feel the urge to spend spend spend. Outwardly, you are out of place because inwardly you can’t buy the things you want.

So, my clothes are my armour, they have the capacity to make me feel safe. This Topshop bouclé coat is one of my favourite purchases for Autumn Winter ‘18 so far, it’s as if though I am in a cocoon all warm and cosy, ideal for the up and coming cold stretch (although you couldn't tell, given its currently 22 degrees celsius as I write this). Everyone loves a good old oversized jumper, I chose this beige turtleneck from H&M. The colour really sums up how I am seeing everything around me, muted and blurred with a touch of haziness. The white denim culottes are also from H&M, they are UNBELIEVABLY relaxed, I literally could live in them all day everyday. I kept it classic and minimal with my accessories, opting for my 10 year old Chanel bag so as to let the shoes do all the talking.

Observing everything passing by your line of sight is odd when you know you can’t do anything about your thoughts which go along with it. Right now, the world of Amira I am living in, is because I am processing a number of big changes in my life and frankly doing so really doesn't make me feel present, anywhere I go. The only way I know how to navigate this subtle and persistent feeling of being out of place, is to see where it takes me, even just through my clothes.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. White Bouclé Coat - Topshop

  2. White Denim Culottes - Similar here

  3. Beige Oversized Jumper - H&M, similar here

  4. Leopard Print Boots - Zara, similar here

  5. Sunglasses - Celine, similar here

Photography by Hayley Ku’unani @thoualone

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