Dressing up the Dictionary: IRL

Doing it for the gram, every single day…

We are all living in this world via social media, more or less. It’s what “real life” has become and it’s all just a tap away on your phones screen. As a result, it’s really hard to distinguish what is actually real and what isn’t, the line is so blurry that we are thinking our own lives aren’t good enough because we are comparing ourselves to what we see of others all. the. time. It begs the question, how much of what I present to you is really true of myself?

Well, I want to keep things as real as possible, but I know there are certain tricks of the trade which mean I inevitably give off the impression my life is a certain way, when perhaps it might not be. That’s not to say that what I put out on social media didn’t happen, it just may not be happening that very moment.

So, for this blog my outfit and location is about keeping it really real with you. We shot on the streets I walk on everyday in West Dulwich where I live, and my outfit is one I wear all the time, whether a photo of it is taken or not. You can’t go wrong with all black and a touch of gold! With it being winter, this is my go to jacket and has been for years now. I practically live in it. All in all, and on a daily basis, I like clothes you can just chuck on without much thought and yet look totally chic anyway.

Yes, I curate an image of myself that I present to you. Yes, I work from home so you know what? Most of the time I am in loungewear (I think my next post will a guide to loungewear, as a self proclaimed expert in that department!). Yes, it’s me in the photographs, I am not catfishing your asses. YES I do own and cherish all the things you see, but they don’t make me who I am in my entirety. These photos don’t capture the nitty gritty, the struggles and the anxiety. I know I know, it’s unlikely anyone shares those things in their lives on social media because they are very personal. Nonetheless, I am telling you that they are there, nearly all of the time. Just because I share carefully chosen snippets of my life does not mean that I live a perfect one. Who does!?

A.x

Shop the look:

  1. Satin Jeans, Topshop (Now on sale!!!)

  2. Leather Shearling Jacket, similar here (H&M) and here (All Saints)

  3. Mini Leather bag, Balenciaga

  4. Boots, Gucci

Real, Everyday Life

Insecurity... 

Where do I even start? Lord knows I have a list of insecurities long enough to start and finish writing a book… Lately, with all that has been going on for me, I have been thinking about my insecurities (oh, and fears) a lot. Some of them are deep rooted and others are a little more superficial. When I think about what I am most insecure about now it's largely focussed on two separate issues. First, my self-image and second, sharing my self-image through blogging. I don't want to sit here and  pretend that my life is perfect. When I set out to blog this year I knew I would have to face some of my biggest fears, namely my crippling social anxiety LOL, but seriously, I am super paranoid when it comes to this stuff. 

Instead of trying to fix all my insecurities and fears, I’ve decided to try and utilise them to challenge my boundaries by creating and doing the things I want to do. What I mean is that without having them in the first place I wouldn't strive to do the things I want to with the gusto they require; my fears and insecurities essentially feed my ambitions. Looking at the superficial, I am super self-conscious. Unlike all those boss big time style and fashion bloggers out there, I do not I REPEAT I DO NOT have a flat stomach, my legs aren't separated by the much sought after thigh gap, I sweat profusely (hyperhidrosis), I breakout on the regular, I feel like my head is two shapes at once, my hair just never does what I tell it to, I am on the curvier side without even having any particular shape (like wtf, thanks genes) and my skin all over just isn't #goals. I literally just made myself sound like a major troll... I can assure you I don't live under a bridge. But you know what, I have realised all those things are going to take a lot of time for me to physically or mentally change and if I wait around for those to be "perfect," starting my blog would never happen. I am trying to flip my insecurities of not fitting in with todays norms of visual identity, into something I can be proud of. So, you know what? Im definitely going to showcase outfits I haven't had the confidence to wear, even if I don't look like how “I should” in them. 

This week, my outfit is inspired by Realisation Par's Naomi Wild Things Skirt. If you're an anybody on Instagram, you'll know this slinky silk number adorns all the coolest style bloggers out there. I mean, if there is one thing that maybe makes me fit in with the rest is owning this one garment. You'll nearly always see me in a pair of jeans with some sort of blouse/jumper, but no more! This skirt is everything, it literally moves beautifully. It is without a doubt one of my favourite investment pieces this year. And guess what? Im feeling all kinds of confident in it. Non flat stomach and all.

So, when I say real everyday life is a part of what my blog is, that is exactly what I mean. Know that behind every photoshoot there are elements of my total awkwardness and also just me and my girl doing what we usually do: walking around London drinking maybe a bit too much coffee.

A. x

P.s. To keep it real with you guys, all the images used for this post are not edited and no filters were used. #nofilter!

Shop the look:

  1. Leopard Print Skirt - Realisation Par Naomi Wild Things

  2. Black Long Sleeve Top - Alexander Wang, similar here

  3. Suede Ankle Boots - Topshop

  4. Bag - Fendi

  5. Sunglasses - Le Specs, similar here

Photography by Hayley Ku'unani - Instagram @thoualone

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