Dressing up the Dictionary: Hopeful

Hoping is born from both negative and positive situations. Honestly without it over the years I definitely wouldn't have gained some of things I really wanted. The old saying “if you don’t ask, you don't get” comes to mind, and when you think about it, asking is the same as hoping. Woah, totally just got into a head spiral over that thought. 

Anyway… existential thought process over, lately I have neglected discussing anything mental health, which is very much part of my every day. If you have read some of my blog posts already you'll know that I am diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and if you haven’t, well, now you know. I suppose the topic isn't one I can just whip out in a blog about a guide to buying the cosiest coats now, can I? In any case, I wanted to take this topic as an opportunity to point out why I really believe in the importance of hoping. 

Given the nature of being extremely depressed, it’s a no brainer that one would lose ALL hope about everything. That includes living, which yes, is very deep but very very true. I have had periods of time where I stopped believing anything good could ever happen to me, frankly because I didn't see the point anymore. It’s a dark and abyss like feeling. Coming out of that mood and state of mind sheds new light on the positive things about life. I see them differently and with more hope than if I didn't come out from that black vacuous hole. 

As I set out on this blogging path I am hopeful for all the things I can get out of doing it. For example, I hope to own this beautiful coat from Verheyen London one day. I want to keep buying the luxury items I am total sucker for whether thats straight from the store itself or second hand from places like Vestiaire Collective. I hope to become the presence I am aiming to be and make a living out of this. The thing is too, I can only hope about these possibilities because I can’t foresee my future and what it may or may not bring.

The other great thing about hope is that it has taught me to be grateful for what I have already, it’s likely I would not have those things without having hoped for them. Like good old Epicurus said “…Remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Leopard Print Coat, Verheyen London

  2. Straight Leg Jeans, & Other Stories

  3. Bag, Gucci via eBay, similar here on Vestiaire Collective

  4. Pointed Perspex Heels, Gianvito Rossi via Vestiaire Collective, similar here

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Dressing up the Dictionary: Expectations

It’s a New year and I have a whole new set of expectations. They can fall flat or be exceeded and until things happen you forever live in the unknown. I used to get the worst anxiety about a year ending and not knowing what was going to happen, but not this time. 2018, to quote Ariana Grande, thank you, next. I am so ready for all the challenges I will face this year, especially because I have found my footing with what I want for myself. So what is it exactly that I expect in the year to come, you ask?

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What I learnt last year is there really are two things which remain a constant: change and of course, your expectations. In fact, they totally work hand in hand. Everything you expect is always changing but you have them nonetheless. Of course, change is an inevitable fate and it doesn’t cease to exist. What 2018 really opened my eyes up to is the notion of “anything can happen.” It was the things I least expected (or didn’t at all for that matter) which changed so much for me, including what I expected from myself.

I expect to push myself outside of my comfort zones, to try and explore the things I love doing and not stay home so much (as cosy as it is), to learn, to love and most importantly I expect to be valued and to value myself.

I am excited to see where this year takes me, especially now that I have embarked on this blogging journey. At the beginning of 2018, I didn’t anticipate I would be doing what I am doing now. But by the end of 2019, with my new path and a clearer direction, I expect to see a growth from the hard work I put into writing (and shopping hahaha) in my pursuit to dress up the Dictionary. Plus, it means I get to hang out in très très chic places like this one (The Hari) which always makes for a great photo. For this words look I wanted to portray what expectations can look like in literal way. Just your every day jumper and jeans but with the addition of those red bottoms as a symbol of what I expect for myself; the very best.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Pink Mohair Jumper, H&M

  2. Straight Leg Jeans, Topshop, Similar here

  3. Pointed Sling back heels, Christian Louboutin, Similar here

  4. Necklace assortment: Amelia Pendant - Cinco Store, Zodiac Pendant - Vanity&Rose, Mother of Pearl Pendant - Astley Clarke , Chanel Pendant from a selection at the Bond St Boutique

Dressing up the Dictionary: IRL

Doing it for the gram, every single day…

We are all living in this world via social media, more or less. It’s what “real life” has become and it’s all just a tap away on your phones screen. As a result, it’s really hard to distinguish what is actually real and what isn’t, the line is so blurry that we are thinking our own lives aren’t good enough because we are comparing ourselves to what we see of others all. the. time. It begs the question, how much of what I present to you is really true of myself?

Well, I want to keep things as real as possible, but I know there are certain tricks of the trade which mean I inevitably give off the impression my life is a certain way, when perhaps it might not be. That’s not to say that what I put out on social media didn’t happen, it just may not be happening that very moment.

So, for this blog my outfit and location is about keeping it really real with you. We shot on the streets I walk on everyday in West Dulwich where I live, and my outfit is one I wear all the time, whether a photo of it is taken or not. You can’t go wrong with all black and a touch of gold! With it being winter, this is my go to jacket and has been for years now. I practically live in it. All in all, and on a daily basis, I like clothes you can just chuck on without much thought and yet look totally chic anyway.

Yes, I curate an image of myself that I present to you. Yes, I work from home so you know what? Most of the time I am in loungewear (I think my next post will a guide to loungewear, as a self proclaimed expert in that department!). Yes, it’s me in the photographs, I am not catfishing your asses. YES I do own and cherish all the things you see, but they don’t make me who I am in my entirety. These photos don’t capture the nitty gritty, the struggles and the anxiety. I know I know, it’s unlikely anyone shares those things in their lives on social media because they are very personal. Nonetheless, I am telling you that they are there, nearly all of the time. Just because I share carefully chosen snippets of my life does not mean that I live a perfect one. Who does!?

A.x

Shop the look:

  1. Satin Jeans, Topshop (Now on sale!!!)

  2. Leather Shearling Jacket, similar here (H&M) and here (All Saints)

  3. Mini Leather bag, Balenciaga

  4. Boots, Gucci

Dressing up the Dictionary: Optimism

“Optimism," said Cacambo, "What is that?" "Alas!" replied Candide, "It is the obstinacy of maintaining that everything is best when it is worst.” Candide, Voltaire

Optimism is a strange thing, to me at least. I don't consider myself to be an altogether optimistic person but it would seem that’s only really the case when I look at my life as a whole. It presents itself in smaller doses, like when I take on a task, I know the end goal and I am optimistic about reaching it whether that be through my blogging, working or even going shopping (because, duh, my ever expanding wardrobe doesn't exist because I am negative about how I want to look).

Working on the bigger picture, however, is going to take some serious amount of time. My cynical nature overrides my optimistic one when I think about the big goals for my future. It doesn’t help when you live with a condition which constantly throws you off balance or when everything going on for you is shat on by the universe, damn you seagull like universe, s@%!ting on everything. But I suppose that’s the point, courtesy of Voltaire (see quote above) it is in fact maintaining that you can see the best even through the worst.

Gucci Boots and Zara Red Patent Biker Jacket

When I think of the word itself, the colour red blankets my mind. Being optimistic carries this sense of fieriness with a side order of passion, which screams all hues of bright and vibrant red. It’s bold and headstrong, you know exactly what you want when you have it and you will do anything to obtain or achieve it in spite of any obstacles and all of life’s persistent twists and turns. So, for this weeks look I wanted to capture how I feel about optimism and how I can best represent what it means to me.

It’s finally jacket and coat season and I couldn’t be happier! I think it’s safe to say that outerwear can either make or break your outfit. I am obsessed (to my mothers distain) with buying them, filling out 3 wardrobes in my own home and not to mention those hanging up at my dad’s place. This red patent jacket is perfect for my look tied to the word optimism. Clearly, having this many coats and jackets really pays off, lol. I’m teaming it with an understated ensemble of a black knitted turtleneck, dark skinny jeans and the most boss boots I have purchased this winter from Gucci.

All the darkness underneath the bold and the bright is my scepticism and the red is all of my optimism. You get me? I hope so.

A.x

Shop the Look:

  1. Red Patent Jacket, Zara - Similar here

  2. Black Turtleneck Jumper, H&M

  3. Dark Wash Skinny Jeans, 7 For All Mankind

  4. Ankle Boots, Gucci

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